The Most Difficult Dog I've Ever Trained Wasn't the Problem – The Dog Training Community Was

# The Toxic Side of Dog Training Nobody Wants to Talk About

Dog training is supposed to be about helping dogs and helping the people who love them.

Yet somewhere along the way, many parts of the dog training community seem to have forgotten that.

What should be a profession built on education, collaboration, and support has increasingly become a battleground of ideologies, where being "right" often matters more than helping dogs.

I've spent years around dogs, and the past few around trainers, rescuers, behaviourists, and owners. I've met some incredible people who genuinely dedicate their lives to improving the welfare of dogs. But I've also witnessed something far less admirable: a culture that can be holier-than-thou, indiscriminately judgemental, hypercritical, and, at times, outright toxic.

The problem isn't disagreement.

Disagreement is healthy.

No profession progresses without debate.

The problem is what happens when disagreement turns into personal attacks, character assassination, virtue signalling, and public shaming.

Instead of discussing ideas, people attack individuals.

Instead of asking questions, they make assumptions.

Instead of offering solutions, they look for someone to blame.

And social media has only made the problem worse.

Algorithms reward outrage. They reward conflict. They reward people picking sides and attacking one another. Nuance doesn't generate clicks. Anger does. Trainers across multiple communities have noted how social media amplifies division, tribalism, and hostility within dog training circles.

Spend five minutes scrolling through dog training content and you'll see it.

One trainer is accused of being abusive because they use a particular tool.

Another is accused of being incompetent because they don't.

One side claims the other is harming dogs.

The other side claims they're living in a fantasy world.

Owners caught in the middle are left wondering who they can trust.

The saddest part is that many of the people being criticised are simply doing their best with difficult dogs in difficult situations.

It's incredibly easy to judge somebody else's decisions when you're not the one living with the consequences.

It's easy to sit behind a keyboard and criticise a thirty-second clip.

It's easy to declare what you would do.

It's much harder when you're the one dealing with the dog in front of you.

I learned that lesson first-hand when I took on Maleficent.

Maleficent wasn't an easy dog. She presented challenges that many people would struggle to fully appreciate unless they'd lived with her themselves. There were times when I genuinely needed advice and support from other professionals.

So I reached out.

What I found was eye-opening.

The people who were most willing to engage in conversation, ask questions, and offer practical advice came predominantly from the balanced training community.

They didn't necessarily have all the answers.

But they listened.

They asked for context.

They wanted to understand the dog before passing judgment.

At the same time, much of the feedback I received from force-free circles wasn't support at all. It was criticism. Assumptions. Conclusions drawn without ever meeting the dog or understanding the realities of the situation.

That isn't to say all force-free trainers are like that.

Far from it.

I've spoken to

force-free trainers who are exceptionally knowledgeable, compassionate, and genuinely committed to helping dogs.

Likewise, I've encountered balanced trainers who are arrogant, dismissive, and every bit as toxic as the people they criticise.

The issue isn't methodology.

The issue is mindset.

Dog training has become increasingly tribal.

People become so invested in defending their ideology that they lose sight of the dog standing in front of them.

The result is a culture where questioning the accepted narrative can invite ridicule.

Where admitting uncertainty is seen as weakness.

Where trainers are expected to pick a side rather than think critically.

Across online communities, trainers and owners alike regularly describe dog training spaces as hostile, divisive, and driven by status, ego, and ideology rather than constructive discussion.

And who suffers because of it?

Dogs.

Owners.

Rescuers.

New trainers trying to learn.

The owner with a reactive dog becomes too afraid to ask questions.

The rescue volunteer becomes terrified of making the wrong decision.

The struggling trainer stops seeking advice because they know criticism is waiting.

People become more concerned with avoiding judgment than finding solutions.

That's not helping dogs.

That's hurting them.

The reality is that no trainer knows everything.

Every trainer has failed.

Every trainer has made mistakes.

Every trainer has encountered a dog that challenged their beliefs.

The best trainers I've met aren't the loudest.

They aren't the ones declaring themselves morally superior.

They're the ones willing to listen.

The ones willing to learn.

The ones willing to say, "I don't know."

Perhaps what the dog training community needs most isn't another argument about methods.

Perhaps it needs more humility.

More empathy.

More curiosity.

And a lot less judgment.

Because at the end of the day, dogs don't care about our labels, ideologies, or social media arguments.

They just need people willing to help them.

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